I cannot really express more right now, having a block...
"We cannot escape our freedom" What freedom? There is no freedom, there is only what we perceive to be free. But our perception really is our thoughts in a darkroom with no windows.
I think that I am starting to agree with Banach's theory of you can only feel, your pain, your sorrow, your happiness. The more I realize that many times I have felt lonely even when people have gone through the same thing as me. That even though they went through experiences similar to mine, they'll never truly understand how I felt at that moment. I find this interesting because I always feel the need to be connected to people, to comfort people when they feel at their lowest point not because I am trying to understand them, but because I know what loneliness feels like through my experiences. I hope that maybe by comforting them I can take some of it away, but I know that I will never understand how deep their pain lies within them because like everyone else they are hiding behind a mask. A mask that David Banach identifies as roles:
Sometimes we get lost in these roles that come with expectations. We believe this is who we are meant to be and if we change then we aren't being true to ourselves. Sometimes you always live up to the expectations that come with your character, that you wish no one expected anything from you and you can surprise them. You can develop your own expectations and not let how other people see you affect the decision of who we will become in life.
"We cannot escape our freedom" What freedom? There is no freedom, there is only what we perceive to be free. But our perception really is our thoughts in a darkroom with no windows.
I think that I am starting to agree with Banach's theory of you can only feel, your pain, your sorrow, your happiness. The more I realize that many times I have felt lonely even when people have gone through the same thing as me. That even though they went through experiences similar to mine, they'll never truly understand how I felt at that moment. I find this interesting because I always feel the need to be connected to people, to comfort people when they feel at their lowest point not because I am trying to understand them, but because I know what loneliness feels like through my experiences. I hope that maybe by comforting them I can take some of it away, but I know that I will never understand how deep their pain lies within them because like everyone else they are hiding behind a mask. A mask that David Banach identifies as roles:
We are also familiar with the way we all play roles, identifying ourselves, or seeing ourselves, in terms of how other people see us, letting other people determine what we are instead of deciding, ourselves, what we will be...we make make ourselves into characters in the plays; we make ourselves into little pictures on our mental TV screen determined by the script written by the expectations of other people.
Sometimes we get lost in these roles that come with expectations. We believe this is who we are meant to be and if we change then we aren't being true to ourselves. Sometimes you always live up to the expectations that come with your character, that you wish no one expected anything from you and you can surprise them. You can develop your own expectations and not let how other people see you affect the decision of who we will become in life.
"but because I know what loneliness feels like through my experiences." right there you are connecting with another human being. You sympathize for them, you're reaching out to the person. My theory is when you see another fellow human being in pain your human nature is to comfort them in an attempt to connect with them. In the end you feel sorry or sad as well, in a way you have connected to the person, you've understood a small fraction of how they felt through your own experience and your attempt at connecting with them.
ReplyDeleteVery true with how we play the roles that everyone expects you to play. Right now i'm playing the role of a thoughtful student, and a thoughtful student is trying to make the author feel understood by reiterating what he/she wrote. School or the culture around me is telling me how to be a thoughtful student right now. However i don't agree with how you could come up with your own expectations. From the moment you were born you're being hit with external forces that affect the way you are. Let's say your dad tells you to be doctor, and you refuse. Well you're refusing to be doctor because your dad's influence or push for you to be one turned you away. A much better post from last time, and i hope the next one will be even better.